A beautiful wedding fusing Scottish and Asian traditions at The Parsonage at Dunmore Park
After meeting at work and a year of dating, Haaris proposed to Abbie at a waterfall in the Lake District.
“He set a camera up on a tripod pretending it was just to take a nice couple of photos there and as the timer went, he got down on one knee,” she remembers.
Back home, they set about planning their Asian/Scottish fusion wedding.
Read on to see the stunning results, captured by McLellan Photography.
With two cultures coming together, the main focus was to pull lots of tradition from both sides and bring it together in a way that celebrated both heritages.
The bride explains, “It was important for us to show my side of the family what an Asian wedding was like and Haaris’ side of the family a Scottish wedding.
For many, it would have been their first time seeing either.”
The planning begins
Following the fusion theme, they booked The Parsonage at Dunmore Park – an exclusive private home that blends Victorian grandeur and contemporary design – after being bowled over by its photo opp-galore grounds and the abundance of space for guests to stay over.
Abbie thinks trying to decide what to include in the wedding was the most difficult part of planning – “There are so many things out there now for weddings and everyone has different advice” – but as she got into the swing of things, found the excitement of ticking things off and booking suppliers to be the most fun.
Armed with a long list of what she didn’t want in a wedding dress but no idea whether to opt for a traditional white gown or something “a bit more Pakistani-inspired”, Abbie headed to the bridal boutiques with her mum and sister.
But she needn’t have worried about decision-making – her eagle-eyed sister had actually already found ‘The One’!
“Before we went to Bijoux Bridal she’d messaged the girl and asked for it to be brought out for me.
“So, when I arrived it was hanging up in the changing room. It was absolutely stunning.”
Putting her own stamp on her glistening gown was important, though, and she added a selection of custom-made jewellery and a ‘to me, from me’ treat – a pair of Gucci sandals!
With Haaris’ culture in mind, Abbie’s three bridesmaids sparkled in beautifully embellished mauve gowns – a perfect complement to the traditional Pakistani attire her in-laws would be wearing.
As for the groom, he combined the cultures by wearing a bespoke sherwani (a traditional Pakistani wedding suit) during the day and a kilt in the evening.
The big day
Abbie stayed at Airth Castle the night before the wedding with her bridesmaids and mum and remembers waking up with “instant butterflies.”
She adds, “I don’t think it really sunk in that I was the bride until I was standing in my dress ready to walk down the aisle!”
She admits feeling anxious as everyone watched her arrival but as she started to see how happy they all looked, the nerves disappeared.
A humanist ceremony was the natural choice, given the couple’s different backgrounds.
And luckily a close family friend of Abbie’s, George McLean of Fuze Ceremonies, was on hand to do the honours.
“George absolutely smashed the ceremony,” smiles Abbie.
“It was funny at times but also thoughtful and touching. He cares so much about what he does and the passion really comes through.”
You can read Abbie and Haaris’ love story journey, as written in their ceremony script, on the Fuze Ceremonies website here
After toasting to the newlyweds with mocktails, the guests were treated to sharing platters of Pakistani food – when they weren’t already up dancing between the tables, that is!
“Everyone was in full party mode from right after the ceremony,” smiles Abbie.
“We had a fantastic DJ who created an amazing vibe and had the dancefloor full all night – but people were even up dancing between courses at dinner. It was so much fun.”
The new Mr and Mrs made a statement on the dancefloor too, though, wowing their 130 guests with a choreographed first dance.
Although that was a special moment for Abbie, she admits her biggest highlight was the epic dance-off.
“The DJ split up Haaris’ and my guests so that everyone could have a turn of going into the middle,” says Abbie.
“Every time I think back to it, I have the biggest smile on my face.”
Looking back on her wedding planning journey Abbie has some words of wisdom for to-be-weds.
“I’d advise other couples to focus on the fun when planning!” she smiles.
“People will always remember how good the DJ or any other entertainment was – including yourselves!”